Yeah, I do want to get married young. And I’ll openly talk about that desire. But if you dismiss that idea as stupid or never going to happen, I’ll probably shut down. Why the heck do people think it’s okay to shut down other’s dreams? Let me rephrase that … Why would you want to diminish someone else’s desires?
Let’s frame this in the lens of Scripture, because, especially in this circumstance, it’s incredibly important.
“Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4 NIV).
If you’re not first delighting in God’s presence this verse is not applicable. Nor can you fake delighting in God’s presence. I hate the phrase “fake it till you make it.” It makes me cringe every time I hear it. No, how about actually be honest about where you’re at and be joyful and content with where you’ve made it to. Now, if you’re not in a good place spiritually, that’s a different conversation altogether. That was a little off topic, though.
This verse is telling us that God does promise to give us the desires of our hearts if we delight in Him. So when someone says that they have a desire to be married whether young, old, anywhere in between or any desire that is honoring to God, don’t shoot that down.
I have had so many people say, “Yeah, well, life doesn’t turn out like you plan.” And I kinda just nod my head. Because I feel like if these people know me at all, they should know that I know that my life hasn’t turn out how I planned already. However, I also am completely and one hundred percent aware of the fact that God has bigger and better plans for my life than I could ever imagine. So when it comes to marriage, there is no exception.
Look, I’m not saying that I’m going to be horrified and angry if I don’t get married young. I’ll be content with it. However, when that’s something I talk about, it’s because it’s a desire that I have. It’s like a little kid saying they want a toy or a piece of candy. Do you tell them they’re never going to get that toy or piece of candy? Probably not.
That escalated quickly, but seriously, just use your words wisely.