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Explain this to me…

This post has been a long time coming.  (And I mean years.)

The last year has been a year of Jesus really working on my heart when it comes to loving people regardless of who they are. First, let me give you some background, though.

After getting engaged last June, I started trying to figure out who would be in my bridal party.  In the process of picking my bridesmaids, I almost didn’t pick one of my best friends and cousin who I run this blog with.  Why?  Because I was worried about what other people would think about Ryan being a “bridesmaid” (a title he’s okay with) and not a “groomsman.”

Can I gently explain something to you?  It doesn’t matter how feel about Ryan being transgender.  It doesn’t matter how you feel about it.

Here’s what matters:

  • We’re not to judge anyone else.

Judge not, that you be not judged.  For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?” (Matthew 7:1-3 ESV)

  • That we treat everyone in the LGBTQ community with love and respect.  Because, guess what, church?  They’re not getting it.  I see it all the time.

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (John 13:34 ESV)

  • Realize that although someone may identify as LGBTQ, that doesn’t mean they’re necessarily acting on it.  (Do I have to say that?)
  • Stop ostracizing them!
  • If someone tells you they’re LGBTQ, don’t tell them they’re wrong.  (Seriously?) Understand that there’s a difference between an educated, biblical discussion about the matter and a rude, ignorant one that’s going to ruin your relationship with them.

So, if anyone has a problem with one of my bridesmaids wearing pants… that’s your issue, not mine.  Because Ryan will be in my wedding party along with the rest of my bridesmaids.  

Disclaimer  By no means am I supporting or affirming same sex marriage or relationships.  However, I have heard enough stories on my own (and my circle isn’t that big!) of the church flat out rejecting people that have admitted they were LGBTQ. ***

So, why is this post titled, explain this to me?

As someone whose heart breaks for those who many churches leave behind and just tend to forget and overlook (not all churches, please do not think I’m saying all churches here).  The churches that do exceedingly well here, please keep doing what you’re doing!  You’re doing amazing work fulfilling the Great Commission.  While the church as a whole has made strides when it comes to helping others in need and becoming more diversified.  Why can we not allow our brothers and sisters who identify as LGBTQ to serve and be a part of the body of believers? It still amazes me and irritates me.

Check out these previous posts!

Take Me to Church … Literally

Yeah, I Wanna Get Married Young (Original Post)

Dating Someone Who Doesn’t Love Jesus

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Don’t Follow Your Heart


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Someone has told you at some point to follow your heart.  Almost guaranteed.  And they may have been someone that wanted what was best for you and to see you grow.  But here’s the thing: that is the exact opposite of what we should do.  It is a lie that we have been told over and over again and begun to believe.

But here’s what Scripture says about the heart:

“This is what the LORD says: “Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the LORD… The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:5,9 NIV)

Now not everything that the Bible says about the heart is negative, there’s a lot about the heart that is actually positive, but those instances describe a heart which belongs to God, the Bible calls that a pure heart.

Whether you’re following God or not, don’t follow your heart.   If you are following God, you can look at it as following your heart but by doing so actually following His.  In this case, you’re still not following your own heart.  If you’re not following Jesus, your heart is going to lead you down destructive paths.

First of all:

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23 NIV).

Every action that you take will be a direct result of where your heart is at. But that doesn’t mean that you are to follow what your heart wants at all times.

I am a pretty independent person and have been since I was little.  So my plan for college was never to stay home and study online. I never thought that was going to happen.  But God had other plans.  A little over a year ago when I was figuring out what I was doing for school, I had to be willing to accept that His plans are better than what I had envisioned for myself.  But now that some things have changed, I’m feeling Him leading me to go to campus.  🙂

We have to be willing to wait for God’s timing, rather than doing them whenever we want.  Do I feel in some ways that I missed out because I wasn’t at school for my freshman and sophomore years of college? Yeah.  Do I realize that I wouldn’t be almost done with my sophomore year of college had I been on campus? Absolutely.  There are so many ways that God has shown me through the past few years that He is faithful and will never leave me (Deuteronomy 31:6) that it is indescribable.

Also, don’t forget that besides waiting sometimes the answer is just going to be no.  Sometimes you’ll wait and wait and wait thinking that His answer will turn into a yes, but the answer has been no all along and will remain no.

 “Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4 NIV).

When we place our focus first on God and not on the things of this world, He promises to give us the desires of our hearts. Look at the context of this verse. This passage of Scripture is all about trusting God with our lives, working for Him, and not becoming envious of what others have, among other things.

Here’s the thing: the Christian life isn’t about following random desires of the heart.  That will only lead to disaster when those desires come from a place of impurity remaining in our hearts.  The Christian life is about following God’s will in all things, no matter what our own hearts’ desire. 

Hey if you liked this post, go check out some others here:

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Stop Asking What I’m Going to Do!


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Some variation of this question pops up in about, um, every conversation that I have with someone that I don’t see on a frequent basis.  With people that I see more frequently it goes more like, “So how’s that going?” Having just finished my first semester of college, I’m not quite tired of it yet but 4 or 5 years from now when I’m working on my masters I’m sure that question will have worn itself out.  I’m sure it’s the same for everyone.

If you’re in college and you know what profession you would like to be in for the rest of your life, congratulations.  I don’t know the statistics and I want to get to the point here, but I think I can speak for a lot of us in that we don’t really know what we want to do with our lives.  Luckily for me, I’m pretty sure I want to go into some sort of business/leadership, so at least starting off with classes there I can’t go wrong.  Where else from there? I’m all over the place.  I want to do it all.  Because why not?

But when I boil it down to what I want to do, here’s what it comes down to

“So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31 NLT

No matter where I end up, as long as what I’m doing is glorifying to God, does it matter what profession I’m in?

Not really.