This post has been a long time coming. (And I mean years.)
The last year has been a year of Jesus really working on my heart when it comes to loving people regardless of who they are. First, let me give you some background, though.
After getting engaged last June, I started trying to figure out who would be in my bridal party. In the process of picking my bridesmaids, I almost didn’t pick one of my best friends and cousin who I run this blog with. Why? Because I was worried about what other people would think about Ryan being a “bridesmaid” (a title he’s okay with) and not a “groomsman.”
Can I gently explain something to you? It doesn’t matter how I feel about Ryan being transgender. It doesn’t matter how you feel about it.
Here’s what matters:
- We’re not to judge anyone else.
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?” (Matthew 7:1-3 ESV)
- That we treat everyone in the LGBTQ community with love and respect. Because, guess what, church? They’re not getting it. I see it all the time.
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (John 13:34 ESV)
- Realize that although someone may identify as LGBTQ, that doesn’t mean they’re necessarily acting on it. (Do I have to say that?)
- Stop ostracizing them!
- If someone tells you they’re LGBTQ, don’t tell them they’re wrong. (Seriously?) Understand that there’s a difference between an educated, biblical discussion about the matter and a rude, ignorant one that’s going to ruin your relationship with them.
So, if anyone has a problem with one of my bridesmaids wearing pants… that’s your issue, not mine. Because Ryan will be in my wedding party along with the rest of my bridesmaids.
Disclaimer By no means am I supporting or affirming same sex marriage or relationships. However, I have heard enough stories on my own (and my circle isn’t that big!) of the church flat out rejecting people that have admitted they were LGBTQ. ***
So, why is this post titled, explain this to me?
As someone whose heart breaks for those who many churches leave behind and just tend to forget and overlook (not all churches, please do not think I’m saying all churches here). The churches that do exceedingly well here, please keep doing what you’re doing! You’re doing amazing work fulfilling the Great Commission. While the church as a whole has made strides when it comes to helping others in need and becoming more diversified. Why can we not allow our brothers and sisters who identify as LGBTQ to serve and be a part of the body of believers? It still amazes me and irritates me.
Check out these previous posts!
Yeah, I Wanna Get Married Young (Original Post)
Dating Someone Who Doesn’t Love Jesus